What Holds a Woman Back

The world can be such a bitch to women.

We’ve always been living in a repressive society, especially for women. Of course, the times have changed and we scream ‘girl power’ every time we can, but that doesn’t change the fact that women have always experienced a long list of double standards in our society. We, women, can be whoever we want to be and we can absolutely do anything. However, there are a lot of reasons why we still can’t seem to fully be in control of how we want to live our lives. A lot of factors hold us back from doing the things that we want and living the life that we’ve always dreamed of.

Since everyone seems to be living a happy and perfect life on social media, a lot of women develop the so-called ‘Inferiority Complex’.

Since we live in an era where social networking sites exist and your social media identity could actually be more important than your real-life persona, having an inferiority complex might be more common than we think. People are fond of posting major career or personal milestones, impressive achievements, and even the luxurious things they have on social media. The question is, do they ever share the bad things about their lives? Are their lives really that perfect? We tend to compare ourselves to other people with the same age and feel envious and upset that they’re getting ahead of us in life. We feel so inferior that we’re not as happy or as successful as the people we know. When we feel so small, flawed, and inadequate, it can be difficult to pursue our dreams.

Due to previous terrible experiences, it can be scary AF for women to try new things.

In a world where women always have to be cautious and alert to stay safe, bad experiences can be quite traumatic to us. Terrible experiences in the past can prevent women from trying new things or going on new adventures. The crippling fear of having that bad experience happening all over again can prevent us from exploring new things.

Family always comes first, but it wouldn’t hurt to make yourself the top priority sometimes.

Women are supposed to be homemakers. We’re the ones who can light up a home and take care of everyone in the family. This kind of responsibility can definitely put us in a box and hold us back from doing the things that we love. We’re afraid of disappointing our families if we take a different route in life or if we break social norms.

One of the greatest fears of women is a failure. We simply worry and doubt ourselves way too often than we should.

Major success comes with taking big risks and leaps of faith. The fear of failure holds us back from doing great things. We’re so comfortable and secure while staying inside our comfort zones that we find it hard to convince ourselves to take a shot and face the possible risks, but with a chance of getting major success or happiness.

It can be hard to explore life and all its possibilities when every woman’s move is observed and analyzed by judgmental and hypocritical people.

Double standards are very real when it comes to women. A lot of things are acceptable if a man does it but a woman could be judged or called names for doing the same thing. Although we want to convince ourselves that their opinions don’t matter or that we don’t care about what others think of us, getting judged for just being you could really be heartbreaking.

Men can take big risks, but when women do--it’s seen as irresponsible and reckless. When women lead, it’s seen as bossy. When women succeed, people don’t believe in the hard work they put in. Also, not enough women support women! We’re just constantly being judged, left and right. Being a woman almost sometimes feels like you have to be complacent--and that totally sucks.

Being a woman can be exhausting, but staying true to yourself without caring about the opinions of other people can be empowering AF.

Women are amazing. We can be compassionate but strong, firm but understanding, and smart but forgiving. It’s time to embrace both our strengths and weaknesses, and use them to our advantage. We can definitely overcome all those things that hold us back from living our best lives and discovering our true selves.

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